Stats from week 9-12 Boston training, Day 30 & a song

Training stuff:

Excluding the months of June and July almost 2 years ago when Levi was born, these have to be the strangest stats I have had.  All runs were "easy"... a few bike doubles, one 50+ mile bike ride on the balcony that left me with a sore knee... It's shaping up to be an "interesting" training cycle.

My mission, at the moment, is to run only easy runs until I have a "green light." I still feel like I am on a "yellow", but I am enjoying running again.

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For believers
Thanks for reading along with me and providing affirmation to me as I posted each of the daily challenge posts.  It has been a blessing!
I received this email yesterday:

Congratulations on completing the 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge!

How has this challenge changed your heart and life? Did God encourage you as you planned ways to encourage your husband? Were there difficult days where you simply needed to trust that God was working?

Remember that God is faithful, and He will bless you for your willingness to obey Him. His ways are not our ways, and perhaps He will honor you in ways you do not expect, but one thing is sure: you will never be the same because of your commitment to be more like Christ!

What kinds of victories have you experienced in your home since you started the "30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge"? Please take a moment to share these victories with us at: http://www.reviveourhearts.com/interact/contactus.htm




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HAVE AN AWESOME WEEK!

Could you catch a one-legged chicken? Day 29 and stuff .

 Are you fast enough to catch this chicken?

I thought I might try to.

It belongs to my friends and I thought the kids would like to pet it. So I made an attempt.

It seems that a chicken can get around pretty well on only one leg.

I didn't want to wind up icing my ankle again anytime soon, so I gave up after a few half-hearted tries at stalking the bird. Not before my friends got a good laugh, though.

Lester, a good-old-boy from Oklahoma, (Husband to my friend Becky who is a native local from Small Town), quipped in his charming twang,

"You are running in Boston and can't catch a one-legged chicken?"

Hmmmpf. I guess not!

Could YOU catch a one-legged chicken?

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Things cross paths as it's day 29 of the Husband Encouragement Challenge and 29 days to Boston!

For believers:
As part of a challenge to become a better encourager to my husband, I signed up to receive daily email reminders with practical suggestions. So far, I really have noticed a difference in how we are relating. I think it has also helped that I have been listening to some podcasts that are on the same issue.

Day 29

"A prudent man foresees evil, and hides himself; the simple pass on, and are punished." (Proverbs 27:12)As you near the end of this challenge, take time to think about your husband's responses to the wickedness of the culture, the media, etc. Does your husband recognize and avoid evil? Does he regularly turn his back on pornography, sexual temptations, and the urge to lie and cheat?

This is a valuable character trait. Like Joseph in the Old Testament, who fled from the wicked advances of Potiphar's wife, this takes an understanding that these kinds of sins are first and foremost, sins against God (Genesis 39:9).

Praise your husband when he recognizes and turns his back on wickedness. If you can think of a circumstance where your husband stood for righteousness, remind him of that today--and express your gratitude.

In the news for Christians elsewhere in the world, you might like to click this link. It's easy to forget that many believers are not allowed to worship or discuss the Word freely, but praise God. one was released from prison recently.

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Training stuff:
Not totally sure what's in store for workouts today. I lifted yesterday (kept up with it while injured- but a bit easy on the legs due to the ankle). Legs a bit sore in the hammies today. I might go for a short run and maybe a double later if it looks like there's an opportunity.

Have a great weekend!

Muddy River / Day 28 of the challenge / 30 days to Boston!?!

The river is a bit high here after a few days of heavy rainfall. And muddy. That makes it not-so-good for fishing Chinook, but still VERY interesting for looking at. Debris and logs and all sorts of random things float down at high speeds.

This is a turn-around spot for some of my double digit runs. I haven't seen it in a while- might not for a while yet (while running).

Across the water here, you can see the small town I live near, nestled in by the trees.

The concrete structure at the river's edge is the remains of the old bridge, washed out in the 1960's.

 Playing "drop sticks" never gets old.

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For believers:
As part of a challenge I am taking to be a better encourager to my husband, I signed up to receive some emails with practical advice.

Day 28
"The fear of the LORD is the instruction of wisdom, and before honor is humility." (Proverbs 15:33)

Sometimes, when we just "know" we are right and our husbands are wrong, (UM...have they been in my house????) it takes great humility to honor them. It is difficult to speak well of our husbands when our own hearts are puffed up with pride.

As part of your challenge today, pray that you will respond to the Lord in faith and humility before you react to your husband. Speak wisely and well, and leave the results to God.

The humility that comes from a right relationship with God--the humility that comes when a man is willing to listen to God and be taught from His Word--is indeed a beautiful quality. Jesus was an example of this kind of humility when he was willing to submit to His Father's will (John 6:38; Matthew 26:39).

Does your husband have that kind of humility? Is he willing to learn from and submit to direction from the Lord? Let your husband know how precious this is to your marriage relationship.

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Training stuff:

Ran 10 miles today.

I felt like an old lady after about three. That's OK with me! Old lady running beats NO running. I might end up running with those old ladies anyway, in about....30 days.

Quads were tired, L calf a little sore (will roll out today). Ankle had no problem, but weirdness under my heel. Me no-likey that. I took an ice bath. Overall...a hard workout at a VERY easy pace. Felt better than the last two runs.

Little scenarios and strategies float around in my mind as I consider the best course for the next 30 days.

Conversations snippets in my mind as I ran today:

"You need to be cautious. You don't want to end up injured again."

"Raina, you are capable of more than you think you are."

"Lord, thank you for letting me run again. Please heal me quickly."

"Oh, never mind, God. Whatever your will is, please let me be your instrument."

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My hubby is running a consistent 2 to 3 times a week and riding the stationary bike. I LOVE it! He's down to 195 and is looking goooood. SO proud.

His run today went up a logging road I won't run up- it's very steep- and he was gone for 2 hours. Some of it was walking, but he can go on the flat ground for the same time and is coming back totally recharged from his runs. I am thrilled with his new decision to embrace life and take time to exercise (among other things)!

This COMEBACK is brought to you by Girl Scout Cookies. Day 27 of 30

Have I found the secret fuel of champions? Or a sneaky race weight saboteur? I WILL find out.

On a funny note: I noticed I had my PR for the 10K listed wrong yesterday on my blog and I fixed it. Haha! I am only a little embarrassed that I had my goal instead of my PR there. Oops!  Just thinking positively....

And in training news:

It's a little early to call it a comeback yet.  =D   But, I RAN.

Five nervous miles Tuesday and 7 again on Wednesday.  Slower than slow- a full minute/mile slower than my easy pace pre-injury.  And I didn't self destruct.

The perfectionist in me was unhappy with the choppiness and slowness, the uncooperative foot. The Lord reminded me that we don't always get "perfect".  Running, perfectly or not, is a gift to be grateful for.

My ankle/heel took about 3 miles to get comfortable. Then my hips and calves and quads started speaking. "We have enjoyed a little vacation and don't want to get on board this train."  I coaxed a bit more from them and then let them stop, all the while remembering that the foot might join their protest later.

I worried. I prayed. I stretched a bit after 12 minutes of running.

The second day I was sore.

Not so much in the foot- that seems to be doing ok- not perfect, but runnable. The hips and calves again.

I have lost fitness. You can't expect to take three weeks off without losing it. I'm GOING to get it back. Maybe not in time for this race, but that's OK with me. I am running again!!!  

Nathan: "Why are Girl Scout cookies so much better, Mom?"

Me: "Because there's a Girl Scout baked in every one." =D

For Believers:During Boston registration I prayed that if I were not supposed to go that I would not get in.

Over the duration of this injury, I have come to understand that perhaps my reason for going to Boston is not even related at all to running. Maybe there is another reason I am "supposed" to go. I am not sure what that is, but I am excited to see how the Lord uses this trip. I am ready to be His instrument again. 

30 Day Husband Encouragement Challenge

From emails I signed up to receive to become a better encourager to my husband:

"Be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart, all you who hope in the LORD." (Psalm 31:24)

You have almost completed the "30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge." Perhaps it has taken you a tremendous amount of courage to speak words of encouragement consistently to your husband. Courage comes as we place our trust in God. Have faith that God will continue to work long after your encouraging words have been shared.

There are lots of "tough guys" in the world, but true courage comes from the Lord. Does your husband exhibit the courage to take an unpopular stand, perhaps even to stand alone against evil? Is he courageous in his faith? Does he work hard to change injustice? Is he a stickler for the truth? Does he protect you or your family from the attacks of the Enemy?

Psalm 27:14 says this kind of courage comes from "waiting" on the Lord for His strength. If your budget allows, "award" your husband with a medal, trophy, framed picture of a brave knight, or some other token that represents his courage as a man of God. Praise evidences of your husband's courage in protecting you, your marriage, your family, or your home.

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This seems like a good area to give encouragement in, but I will have to be creative...I can't imagine getting a trophy for Jon for his courage..Hmm....thinking.. He'd like cookies as a reward better . :)

Husband Encouragement Challenge Day 26

As part of a challenge to become a better wife to my husband, I signed up to receive emails. These are reminders and concrete things that I can do to encourage my husband. Some are simple, some are more difficult, but the biggest challenge is working it in to everyday situations and making it natural. But even an unnatural encouragement is worth the time to make... Learning so much from this exercise.

Day trip to a small coastal lake, circa 2001. Ah...back before wrinkles. =D

Day 26
"And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men." (Luke 2:52)

If you have faithfully encouraged your husband, you will no doubt have seen some changes in his life . . . and your own life, as well. Encouragement is a wonderful habit that we hope you will continue for the rest of your life.

The important thing is to keep growing in Christ and obeying the Word of God as you respond to your husband. As you consider today how to bless your husband and not tear him down, think of ways that you can encourage balance in your home.

Jesus led a balanced life. He grew mentally, physically, spiritually, and socially. As you see your husband branching out in these areas, is there a pattern of growth? Is your husband striving for balance in his life? If so, let him know you have noticed, and ask how you can further encourage that balance.

If your husband is out of balance--focusing on one area to the exclusion of the others, consider whether there are things you can do to help restore or create balance in his life. Can you encourage times for sports or exercise? Keep the children quiet for a study time? Invite friends over for dinner? Stimulate his mind?

Be sure you are working toward balance in your own life, as well. Be an example!

Husband Encouragement Challenge Day 25

From a series of emails I signed up to receive as part of a challenge to become a better encourager to my husband:
Today's email is a REAL challenge to me. I have a hard time finding peace, and find it easiest to feel peaceful when I am engaged in a solo activity. I really WOULD like to create a home of peace, and should purpose myself to study how to do that more. A good start would be to watch some of my friends more closely. :)

Day 25
"Seek peace, and pursue it." (Psalm 34:14b)

"You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You." (Isaiah 26:3)
Before you consider whether these verses describe your husband, consider your own presence in the home. Do you promote an atmosphere of peace, or do critical words often flow from your mouth? Do you struggle with anger? If so, before you continue with this challenge, confess these sinful habits to the Lord, and determine to speak words of peace to your family today.

Does your husband bring an atmosphere of peace into your home? Is his presence a calming influence? Does he bring music, entertainment, books, or people into your home that build a sense of serenity? Let him know how much you appreciate this wonderful quality, and support his choices.
If, on the other hand, he is quickly angered or he creates chaos rather than calm, ask God to give you an abundance of the kind of peace that will speak to his heart. Be patient and loving. Create an inviting atmosphere of peace, as much as possible.

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Husband Encouragement Challenge Day 24

"And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord." (Ephesians 6:4)

Children can be quite a challenge to the marriage relationship. A wise wife will support her husband's leadership in the home as much as possible, and will praise him for his fathering skills. Negativity makes a man feel like a failure, and may make him to want to give up.

Does your husband discipline your children wisely? Does he show them love and encourage them? Does he take an interest in their activities and dreams? Does he spend time with them? Does he take part in developing their character? Praise him for these important life skills.

If you don't have children, is your husband positive and encouraging around other people's children? Let him know that you have noticed.

If your husband does not experience positive relationships with children, you will need to figure out why. Perhaps he had negative experiences as a child with his own parents, and needs to learn how to respond. Perhaps you can lovingly and patiently show him how to parent--while still maintaining his authority in the home.

Husband encouragement challenge Day 22, 23

Day 22
"But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you." (Matthew 6:33)

If we are living in light of eternity, everything we think, do, or say is seen from an eternal perspective. We will someday give an account for our failure to speak words of love and encouragement. Determine today that your words will be sweet and helpful.

Does your husband have an eternal perspective that allows him to reject materialism and temporal values? Express your gratefulness for his value system, and praise him for putting eternal things before riches and other things of this world.

If this is a problem area for him, consider how you might alter your own value system and live for eternity in front of him, encouraging him to do the same. Only two things will last into eternity: the Word of God and people. Be sure that you are focusing on the right things.

Day 23
"Let your speech always be with grace." (Colossians 4:6a)

You're moving toward the home stretch of your 30-day challenge! Just a reminder of what you've committed:
"You can't say anything negative about your husband . . . to him or to anyone else. Each day, say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband . . . to him and to someone else.

"In all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works." (Titus 2:7a)
Does the "30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge" seem like hard work? Or is it becoming a pleasant exercise in genuine Christ-likeness in your home? You are only scratching the surface of ways to encourage your mate.

Is your husband organized? Is he diligent? Is he persistent? These are all related to a pattern of personal disciplines that are worthy of your praise. Affirm him for one or more of these traits that you see in him.

Some men have not developed these qualities because they are naturally more spontaneous. You can praise his spontaneity! Perhaps God has called you alongside to help him with disciplines he has not yet developed--but this does not include nagging.

Whatever the need, you can be your husband's cheerleader, encouraging him when he wants to give up.

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This weekend we had a good time with Grandma and Grandpa at the Science Factory in Eugene. The boys loved all the hands on stuff! And, after the visit, we went out for a walk along the trails near Autzen Stadium.

Bike to Run conversion, & Day 20 & 21 of the challenge

Training stuff:

Another double day on the trainer bike. 20 miles easy am, 22 pm. I really don't like the bike...and I find myself staring out the window at the pool, while riding, wondering, "Could I sink to the depth of becoming a triathlete?" No offense to my tri friends ;) ...totally just kidding.

Still icing and massaging foot. Only hurts when I poke it during massage.
I want to run really really bad.....My emotions sway from not feeling like a runner at all...to wanting badly to feel some contact with the ground. My toes want it, my quads and hamstrings want it, my calves and glutes crave it!
I have been getting some awesome injury counseling via email, though. And, although it's totally NOT in my nature I am choosing NOT to run. Hardest dang thing. My gut says it's the wise thing. I am going with it. And Boston is 37 days away..

Bike to Run Conversion
First I have to say that running and biking DO NOT TRANSLATE (in my book) but I am doing what i can to keep up right now.

An interesting article on running/bike conversion came via email from Kim at Just trying is for little girls:  Thanks Kim!!

Edmund R. Burke, Ph.D.

Active.com (Part of the article)

Cycling Speed Calories Conversion

M.P.H.	Cal. per mile	Divider
10	26	4.2
15	31	3.5
20	38	2.9
25	47	2.3
30	59	1.9

For example, riding 20 miles at 15 mph burns 620 calories (20 miles X 31 calories per mile = 620 calories). Determine the running equivalent by dividing the distance (20 miles) by the conversion divider for 15-mph (3.5). The result is 5.7 miles.
 
This means that cycling 20 miles at 15 mph burns as many calories as running 5.7 miles.(  OMGOSH!!! I BETTER START GOING FASTER OR LONGER!!!)
 
If you rode 20 miles at 20 mph, you would divide by the corresponding number on the table (2.9). The result is 6.9 miles. So, in terms of energy expenditure, riding 20 miles at 20 mph is equivalent to running 6.9 miles.
Both would burn about 760 calories (20 X 38).

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All of us- before Levi- Just before I started really running.

Day 20
Read this wife's description of her beloved in Song of Solomon 5:10-16.
Criticism leaves scar; encouragement can bring healing. Remember that today as you focus on your "30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge."


Almost nothing is as devastating to a man as the belief that his wife finds him repulsive. Sadly, many women unwisely criticize their husbands' bodies.


Have you ever considered how wonderfully God designed men and women? No matter how a man looks by the standards of the world, a loving God designed them all, and they are all "beautiful" in His sight. Encourage your husband today by praising his uniqueness.


As you look over your husband's body, from the tip of his toes to his bald or bushy head, thank God that your husband is "wonderfully made," then admire your husband verbally. (Strong arms? Hairy chest? Firm hands? Big feet? Rugged chin? Wide shoulders? Compassionate eyes? Broad smile?)


Day 21
"Be kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ also forgave you." (Ephesians 4:32)

(I love this scripture! The (two older) kids and I have memorized it this week- but a different translation. Ephesians 4:32  "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ, God forgave you."


It's time for some heart examination. As you continue in this 30-day challenge, have you found any roots of bitterness that are contaminating your relationship with your husband? Do you understand that as long as you are unwilling to forgive your husband (by God's grace and in His power) you will not be able to encourage him? Your own resentment will keep getting in the way. Now is the time to deal with any unforgiving attitudes. Forgive him, even as God has forgiven you.


Is your husband a forgiving man? Does he keep short accounts of your problems? Express your thankfulness for such a man.


Does your husband seem to harbor grudges against you? If so, could there be things you need to change? Do you possibly need to ask forgiveness for an offense? Help your husband be more forgiving by quickly forgiving him for his mistakes.

Ok...this morning was a total failure, but the day's not over!

Some Stats, The Alphabet Thing & Day 18

Thanks to those of you who are emailing me and commenting asking about my training and how I am doing with "things". I am doing much better dealing with this than I would have last year. Things really could be much worse than they are.

Today I went on another "test run" . I made it about 50 yards and slowed to a walk. Slight pain in the ankle and fear controls my thoughts. What if it's something worse than a strain or tendonitis? What if I kept on running despite it? Should I just wait it out, or am I just being a wimp. It's not that it hurts very badly, it's just that I don't want to go backwards or get a compensation injury.

And then I start to wonder...should I get some arch supports?

What if I never run again until race day? Will I have any tendon strength anywhere else?

Would going in to a podiatrist be cost effective and helpful right now? Have I misdiagnosed this thing?

AHHHH. I hate sounding like a whiner and I know there are such bigger things to be concerned about in the world.

Really, I should not let this consume me. I need to be "alive and present" the rest of the day. My kids and husband deserve it.

If anything, my sister and I will have a great vacation Patriot's Day weekend.

*EDIT*
I just read another blog and realized that the remainder of my Boston training falls during Lent (thanks Andrew).  Something else for me to think about.
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Alphabet thing...

Age: 36

Bed size: King, but not king enough for 5 people.

Chore you dislike: putting away anything, especially laundry

Dogs: None. But the neighborhood dogs are always visiting…

Essential start to your day: Coffee, quiet time.

Favorite color: This is a ridiculous question. Chartreuse.

Gold or silver: gold? My ring is too big right now and it’s put away.

Height: 5'8 ½”

Instruments you play: Once I tried to learn piano..Then I drove Jon nuts with the mandolin for a while.

Job title: Stay at home mom and wifey- except when I get the keys.

Kids: 3 boys. Love them all…I think we’re done.

Live: Middle of Nowhere, Oregon

Mom's name: Kathleen

Nickname: I had one for a short time in high school: Gumby. It had to do with my tennis form.

Overnight hospital stay: baby #1, but I was still out in under 12 hours.


Pet peeves: bullying and self-righteousness

Quote from a movie: “My good opinion once lost is lost forever.”  And “As you wish, Princess Buttercup.”

Righty or lefty: righty

Siblings: one sister

Time you wake up: 5-6 am…sometimes 4:30 and occasionally not until 8.

Underwear: wouldn’t you like to know: High and tight. And sometimes animal print. Grrr….

Vegetables you don't like: cauliflower- but I’ll eat it.

What makes you run late: usually anything except racing

Xrays you had: teeth, wrist, lungs ....

Yummy food you make: prime rib, brownies, chocolate rolls, pasta salad

Zoo animal favorites: Larakeets  
 

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Husband Encouragement Challenge -
I signed up to receive daily emails as a project to become a better encourager to my husband.

Day 18

"The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding." (Proverbs 9:10)

Are you a wise woman? Do you open your mouth with wisdom, as Proverbs 31:26 suggests? As you continue in your 30-day challenge, remember that a wise woman encourages her husband. (Oops...hahaha...not wise..trying to learn to be, though!)

Is your husband a "wise man?" Does he have a godly perspective that comes from knowing God and walking with Him in obedience? Does he have a sense of purpose for his life and vision for your home? Tell him how much this means to you.

If you are not sure about your husband's vision for your home, ask him, "Honey, what do you want to accomplish with our marriage and home in the years to come?" and "How can I help you accomplish that?"
(Even if I am sure - or have a good idea anyway- Jon would probably like to talk about this.)

If he does not have a vision, your questions may inspire him to develop one.
If your husband is not walking with God--or perhaps, does not know the Lord--you have the opportunity and responsibility to practice your faith and create a thirst for God. Thank God for giving your husband a place in his heart that only He can fill, and keep praying that he will turn to the Lord to fill that vacuum!

30Day Husband Encouragement Challenge day 15 & 16

A few weeks ago, I signed up to receive 30 daily emails as a challenge to become a better wife to my husband.

Day 15
"Let your speech always be with grace." (Colossians 4:6a)

Focus today on how you represent your husband in your home, your church, and your community. In this challenge to encourage, ask: "If everything my family and friends knew about my husband came from a filter of what I've said about him, what would they think of my husband?" Do you need to change the filter?

Do you speak positively about your husband to others, or do you complain and criticize? Your speech should reflect 1 Corinthians 13 love. Your words should be kind, and should never "rejoice in iniquity" (v. 6). Refrain from listing your husband's faults to others. Satan likes to trick us in this area; be wary of sharing barbed "prayer requests."

Remember, "Love will cover a multitude of sins" (1 Peter 4:8b). Present your husband before others today in a strong, positive manner. Slip in a "good word" for your spouse. Resist the urge to correct or belittle him in front of others. Some of what you say may come back to him, and you want your words to be sweet, building him up and never tearing him down.

Don't forget: you are always criticizing--or encouraging--before an audience. God hears your conversations when you are alone with your husband in your own home. May your speech be always seasoned with grace.

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Day16
"Grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ."
(2 Peter 3:18a)

Sometimes we live so close to our spouse that we fail to see him as others do; we only see our husband's faults.

Take a step back. Perhaps he is growing spiritually in ways you have failed to appreciate. How can you encourage his growth in a fresh, new way?

Remember--your husband is accountable to God for his spiritual development. You are accountable to God to encourage and not hinder that growth.

Can you identify an area of spiritual strength in your husband? Does he pray or read his Bible regularly? Does he like to read about or discuss spiritual matters? Does he go to church with you? Is he a spiritual leader? What do others say about him? If you can identify a specific area, praise him for that.
If not, pray earnestly that God will work in his heart, and watch for signs of spiritual growth in the future.

Husband Encouragement Challenge day 14

Day 14
"The righteous man walks in his integrity." (Proverbs 20:7a)

Every week there are news reports about men who gave in to temptations and compromised what they said they believed. We hear countless reports about dishonest business dealings, hidden infidelity, and hypocritical leaders. It's so easy to focus on these things and ignore those who are being honest, faithful, and genuine. As you continue in the "30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge", determine to look for ways that your husband stands against the culture.

Is your spouse a man of integrity? Is he fair in his dealings with people? Does he understand the meaning of justice? Is he honest in business? Unhypocritical in his faith? Consider all the ways a man can live in integrity, and praise your husband for one of them.

As you have the opportunity--as it is appropriate--share examples of your husband's honesty and integrity with others.

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Personal note here:

Integrity is extremely important to me, and perhaps the number one reason I chose my husband (besides his hotness, of course!). This email was a good reminder to me that this is one of his character strengths.

For the last 11 years we have been married, he has ran his own business. Though we are currently facing some struggles with it, it has always been conducted with fairness and honesty. I will mention this tonight to him and how much I appreciate that he is trustworthy and keeps his word.

Also, I thank my dad for teaching me that, "Integrity is one thing that no one can take away from you."



30 Day Husband Encouragement Challenge Days 11 &12

From a series of emails I signed up to receive at http://www.reviveourhearts.com/ :

Day 11

 My husband is a GREAT dad!

"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord." (Ephesians 5:22)
Women who are constantly negative toward their husbands--especially by speaking evil of them to others--show great disrespect. Determine not to do that today (or ever!). This challenge to encourage is closely connected to submission. *

Men respond to women who respect them. What do you respect about your husband? Part of that respect includes submission to his authority. Let your husband know how respecting him makes it easier to submit to his leadership. Show your respect in public by listening to him and smiling at him when he speaks. Place your hand in his as you walk together.

If you feel there is nothing to respect, search harder . . . nearly every man has some core characteristic that can be nurtured and respected. In any case, you must still cultivate a submissive spirit to his position of leadership . . . "as to the Lord."

* My thoughts on submission:
I still have trouble with this word. I had trouble with the word "submit" from birth, I think. Totally NOT in my nature.
The problem I have (had) is in connecting submission with inferiority.
Is it the inferior one who submits? Not so. It is a choice to submit.
A household can only have one true leader. With two leaders there is strife. I am trying to make the choice, daily, to step back and let my husband be that leader. It tests me to my CORE. I don't step back from the controls easily. (You may or may not have already gathered that based on what you've read in this blog. If you've met me in person, you are aware. =D )

Day 12
"With all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love." (Ephesians 4:2)

Part of the difficulty you may face as you continue in this 30-day challenge is that you really are struggling to find positive things to praise your husband for. Perhaps the problem is not with your husband. Have you checked your own heart?

Sometimes we get disillusioned because of our own unreasonable or unrealistic expectations (Proverbs 13:12). It may not be that our mates are doing something wrong; it's simply that we expect too much in some areas.

Our expectations must be met in God alone, and then we will have the right perspective to ask God for the healing and grace we need to respond to others.

How sad that we give more grace to others than to those in our own homes. Today, try to look at your husband through eyes of grace. Verbally thank your husband for what he is already doing.

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I finally am caught up with my emails on here! My blog was a little behind the emails I had received, as I started the blog series a little after I got the first one.

You can imagine my surprise when I opened day 12 this morning! It is so relevant to my life, my marriage and even my running situation.

My own heart has been so self-absorbed that it is often hard to consider Jon's needs. Perhaps the best part of this challenge has been the changes I am seeing in myself. This 12 day stretch is probably the longest I have ever gone consciously considering everything I say and do and how it affects my hubby.

I am already thinking that I will try to continue the main aspects of this challenge after it is over. Heh. Maybe I will re-sign up for the emails. =D

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Big thank you to those of you who have been commenting and encouraging me in this along the way!!! Some of your blogs I need to visit; I haven't been doing much reading and commenting, but I am thinking of each of you! Your comments give me great hope. And hope is believing in things unseen!

30 Day Husband Encouragement Challenge Day9, Day 10 & Boston training thoughts

If you are new to my blog or just coming back, I recently signed up to receive some daily emails as part of a challenge to be a better encourager to my husband.

Day 9
"Be swift to hear, slow to speak . . ." (James 1:19b)
We are often so busy speaking that we don't take time to listen. We are so quick to offer a comment--negative or positive--that we don't really "hear" our husband's heart. Remember, we have two ears and only one mouth. We need to listen more!

As you continue in your 30-day challenge, hear the Lord's admonition: "Be swift to hear."
If listening is a real problem for you, play a game with yourself. See if you can listen to your husband for one whole day, only speaking when asked a question. If your husband notices the difference, explain that you are learning to listen more--not only to God, but also to him.

One easy way to express admiration for your husband is to ask a question about something he enjoys, and then listen to his response. If it's an area of personal familiarity, keep asking questions until you learn something you didn't know, then tell him, "Wow, I didn't know that!"

Day 10
"Behold, you are handsome, my beloved! Yes, pleasant!" (Song of Solomon 1:16a)

We all crave appreciation. We want to know that we are valued and loved. Early love letters probably reflected your admiration of your husband, but if you're not careful, your spouse will forget why you were drawn to him. If you still have any of your old love letters, re-read them for clues to deepen your current level of appreciation for your spouse.

When we spend time criticizing our husbands, we lose time that could be spent
admiring them. As you consider various ways to encourage your husband, ask, "How can I admire him?"
Does your husband know that you think he is attractive? What was one of the
characteristics in your husband that first drew you to him? Was it a physical
characteristic, or something else?

Was it his gentle, compassionate eyes? Kindness or concern for others? An easy-going confidence? A steadiness that comes from trusting in the Lord? Strength of character in a culture that lacks integrity? Do you see at least a glimpse of that characteristic in him today? Whatever it is, tell him!

Boy, Day 9 is tricky. Keeping quiet is usually something I only do when I am trying to keep out of a fight. I am afraid that he might think I was giving the silent treatment, so I'd better give a head's up!

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Training stuff:
Still riding the bike. Tested out a "jog" for about 400 M yesterday. Not totally pain free, but gives me some hope that I will be running again soon.

I did a little research on paroneal tendon injuries, and I still can't say with 100 % surety what I did to my foot. I have some ideas, though. I suspect I either got a really spot specific tendinitis that came on rather quickly, OR...I suffered a strain or pull to the paroneal tendons behind and below my right ankle. Either way, I am not going to go in and see someone for a sports injury (when all other aspects of my life are completely functional), so that's as concrete as it's going to get.

If you are really really interested in this injury stuff, here is a little more:
(from http://www.foothealthfacts.org/footankleinfo/peroneal-tendon.htm )

What Are the Peroneal Tendons?A tendon is a band of tissue that connects a muscle to a bone. The two peroneal tendons in the foot run side-by-side behind the outer ankle bone. One peroneal tendon attaches to the outer part of the midfoot, while the other tendon runs under the foot and attaches near the inside of the arch. The main function of the peroneal tendons is to stabilize the foot and ankle and protect them from sprains.
Causes and Symptoms of Peroneal Tendon InjuriesPeroneal tendon injuries may be acute (occurring suddenly) or chronic (developing over a period of time). They most commonly occur in individuals who participate in sports that involve repetitive ankle motion. In addition, people with higher arches are at risk for developing peroneal tendon injuries. Basic types of peroneal tendon injuries are tendonitis, tears, and subluxation.
Tendonitis is an inflammation of one or both tendons. The inflammation is caused by activities involving repetitive use of the tendon, overuse of the tendon, or trauma (such as an ankle sprain). Symptoms of tendonitis include:

• Pain
• Swelling
• Warmth to the touch

Anyhooo....it's been a few days since I've ran and I have a LOT of thoughts about it. I have shed some tears. But, I am recovering. I am healing. I am learning.

I am just starting to realize that whatever God's will is for me in this race is really what's best. I know I have said that before - or meant to- but now I really mean it. Maybe before I just wanted to feel that way. Now I see that I don't have a choice.

In the last week I have had to really let some things go, emotionally, and surrender what I have been clinging dearly to.

Even now, I want to cry. I really wanted this to be a GREAT race, I mean a REALLY SUPER FAST, BEST RACE IN MY LIFE RACE.

Now that I am supposed to be in my peak mileage and am riding a trainer bike, I can look back and say, "You know. Lord. This race really wasn't going to be to glorify you." It was for ME. I wanted to glorify me, my perfect plan, the execution of the best race I could do. Where was trust in all of that?

Trust was misplaced.

Glory was misdirected.

Humility was absent.

I needed this. I really did.

Who knows now what God wants for this race. I don't...but He has my full attention.

30 Day Husband Encouragement Challenge, Day 8

Day 8 (from a series of emails I signed up for)

How are you doing with the "30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge"? In case you've forgotten, here's the challenge:

* You can't say anything negative about your husband . . . to your husband, or to anyone else.
* Say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband . . . to your husband and to someone else.

Photo proofs from our wedding day, with photographer's marks on them :) . We used the top two.

"But who can find a faithful man?" (Proverbs 20:6b)

Faithfulness is a wonderful but rare quality today, especially in regard to marriage. Do you understand how important this quality is? Your challenge is to continue to root out all negative speaking, and plant seeds of encouragement instead. You may be amazed at what will grow.

Contemporary culture often entices men to be unfaithful to their wedding vows and spiritual commitments. Appreciate your husband's faithfulness--how he is loyal to you. Let him know that you are glad he has "stick-to-it-iveness" in your marriage. Appreciate his faithfulness to God.
If you have an unfaithful husband, this is a difficult area for you. Pray, speak the truth in love, remain faithful yourself, and discover ways to encourage faithfulness in your mate. The Bible says that husbands may "be won by the conduct of their wives" (1 Peter 3:1b). You may also want to seek counsel from a mature, godly individual or couple.

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Running stuff:
Not much to report here.
I am in the process of revising my goal for Boston. My plan has been abandoned, but I am still keeping up with the trainer bike and lifting. I also have a regimen of applied heat and massage to the injured part of my foot 3 X a day. Yesterday I got out of the house and walked on it a bit.

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Are you brave???
Still looking for your funny / bad race photos! Please let me know if you post any and I'll post a link here to them. =D

30 Day Husband Encouragement Challenge, Day 7

Day 7


"Do not overwork to be rich; because of your own understanding, cease! For riches certainly make themselves wings." (Proverbs 23:4, 5b)


"That I may cause those who love me to inherit wealth, that I may fill their treasuries." (Proverbs 8:21)
Money is the root of much marital discord. Ask yourself, "Am I being negative toward my husband in the area of finances?" Determine not to speak evil of your husband in this area. Discover ways to encourage and help him instead.


Does your husband handle finances wisely? Does he make good financial investments, based on biblical principles? Does he have a budget? Does he make wise decisions about purchases--checking many sources before he buys? Is he a good steward of his money before the Lord? Let him know how much you appreciate his strengths in financial matters.


If he is weak in this area, encourage any good decisions that he does make. Perhaps you can help him, if he's open to the idea, by organizing financial files or providing other practical assistance. Or, if he wants you to handle the finances, ask for his input before you make decisions that will affect him.
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Are you enjoying this "30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge"? Jot a note to us at Revive Our Hearts, to share how God is touching your heart. You can do that at: http://www.reviveourhearts.com/interact/contactus.htm.

What's your worst race photo? & 30 day Husband Encouragement Challenge days 5 & 6

What is your worse race photo?

Here is one of mine. I was giving it my all as I finished a half marathon, but wound up looking like drowned rat after it's last meal of DECON.  

Unfortunately I delete most of the evidence when there are bad race photos. For some reason I still had this on file.

Maybe the caption should read "AIR...I need AIR!"

What is your worst race photo you have of yourself?

 I would love to see yours! I really could use some good laughs right now.

If you post your link we could have a really fun time making fun of ourselves =D

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Husband encouragement challenge

These are a series of emails I signed up to receive. I think they are helping me to change for the best...as long as I don't forget the other stuff I am supposed to be doing, like keeping the house clean and making meals on time =D .

Day 5
"Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers." (Ephesians 4:29)


Another way to describe the positive side of this "30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge" is by using the word "edify," which means, "to build up." Negative comments only discourage and tear down. Positive comments encourage and build.


Do you edify your husband before others, adding to his value in their eyes? This is especially important with other family members.


Do you praise your husband to his relatives, and yours? Does your husband's mother know how much you love him? How about your dad? Perhaps you can drop a word of praise into a conversation or letter. Be creative in letting your relatives know that you respect your husband, love him, and support him--in spite of whatever flaws and weaknesses he may have.


Day 6
"Whatever you do, do all to the glory of God." (1 Corinthians 10:31b)
Do you recognize and appreciate your husband's creativity? Or do you criticize and demean his efforts?
Instead of negativity, determine to be positive. Perhaps you can help your husband see that his efforts are an opportunity to glorify God.


Is your husband the "creative" type? Does he have any artistic gifts? What is that special "knack" he has? Affirm him for his handiwork--a hobby, music, gardening, tinkering with cars, working with wood, etc. Remember: Even if he doesn't measure up to your standards, praise his efforts. If your budget allows, buy him a book or magazine that will continue to encourage his special skill or talent.


If you have a hard time finding his "creative side," understand that men's creativity sometimes is related to their work. Find something he does to make his job run more smoothly or something he does that adds value to his work, and let him know that you have noticed.
Make his day--Praise his accomplishments in public, while he is listening.

Back in the saddle...sort of.

Meet my new friend, Wes.

We haven't known each other long...but we are starting to gel.

 (Yes, I know this is an absolutely ridiculous photo of me NOT working out. Just let me say that it was too much work to airbrush a bag over my head today =D ...and I would never pose for REAL like this...just being weird. )

Wes is short for Weslo- my new ride. We have been spending some quality time in the evenings this week...

How do I love thee, Wes? Let me count the ways...

Your recumbant seat has plenty of room and never leaves me wishing for more padding.

Your pedals are strappy and adjustable. That suits me fine (especially with duct tape to keep them from jumping out of the notches).

The nifty side handles are rare.

(I am not sure of their true purpose, but I have used them to stabilize myself as I try to keep from lifting off the runway when trying to get my heart rate up.)

The special clicking sound you make with each revolution is really growing on me.

You are light enough that I can store you on the balcony and bring you in for Netflix. Ahhh...netflix.

Your display is digital and pauses while I get up to re-duct tape the toe straps :)

You are probably SAVING my BACON while my running is on the back burner. That keeps hope ALIVE.

Wes, I can't say you complete me, but if I close my eyes you'll do. I Heart YOU!

Special thanks to my hubby who has been very understanding of my temporary insanity. He has helped haul this thing upstairs and in and out the sliding door many nights now. Jon, you are my HERO. Such a patient man.

Also, special thanks to Janae at http://www.hungryrunnergirl.com/ for some bike XT tips =D .

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In other news, I got some new socks. I thought I might turn them into arm warmers ( i have no present need for them, but always looking for fashionable ideas here, ;) ...)

The boys took right to them.

I might have to splurge and buy a few more pairs. We could look like a really RAD family in our next outing to the sportsman show!

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For believers:

I appreciated all the recent comments regarding the challenge I am doing. It has been AWESOME so far.

I have had some struggles, but overall, I really like how things are going. There are some similarities to the "Love Dare"/fireproof movie, but specific to a woman's role in marriage. I really can use the practical suggestions for how to be encouraging. It's not a natural thing for me to follow or encourage, (Oh how I wish it were, sometimes!).

Day 3 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge


"Love suffers long, and is kind." (1 Corinthians 13:4a)
"My God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus." (Philippians 4:19)


Love indeed suffers long and is kind. As you consider this challenge, determine today that you will not say anything negative to or about your husband. Speak kindly to him with words of genuine encouragement.


If your husband is considerate of your needs, let him know that you have noticed. Thank him for his kindness and consideration. Thank the Lord that your husband knows how to be both tough and tender.


Sometimes it's difficult for a man to be gentle, kind, or tender--especially if he hasn't had role models in these areas. If he's not a considerate person, appeal to him for help without complaining. Let him know that it's hard for you to handle some things alone. Then, when he moves in to help, don't insist that he do it your way. Be glad that he is responding, and express your gratitude.


Ultimately, you can't expect your husband to make you feel more secure or loved. Remember that only God can meet the deepest needs of your heart.

Day 4
Day 4 30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge
"Let him labor, working with his hands what is good . . ." (Ephesians 4:28b)

We are all accountable for the things we say, both negative and positive words. Have you embraced the challenge to speak only positive things to your husband and to others about him? Here's a suggestion that touches the core of your husband's world.

Some women take their husband's career for granted, and they show it in many ways. Do you "dump" on your husband at the end of the workday, or do you strengthen and encourage him with your words? A wise wife will make her husband feel that she values and appreciates his work. Let him know that you are glad he is a hard worker. Take opportunities to praise his diligence and resourcefulness to others.

If your husband is out of work, unable to work, or refuses to work, you'll need to be more creative. Praise him for a character quality that you see in him that would be a vital part of a successful career - such as persistence, decisiveness, strength, an analytical mind, organizational skills, good with people, good listener, determination, etc.

This part could be hard, as hubby has been in a big work slow-down, but since he is such a HARD worker, I should have no trouble...I just need to remember to thank him for it!!

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Are you currently injured?

What types of cross training do you do?

Are you facing any personal challenges this week? If so, how do you handle them?